What's the coolest fetish performance you've ever seen or heard of?
This is NOT a sexual question. I'm looking performance scene scenarios. Performances you might have scene at BDSM, burlesque or similar shows/conferences. Pole dancing or things you saw at a strip club are also NOT what I'm looking for. Fire flogging, stunt whipping and unique improvised bondage are more in line with this question. Specific details would be helpful bonus points if you find footage. Thanks in advance for your help on this oddball question. :)
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Not for the faint hearted but if you are interested in serious S&M then look for "suspension" on the internnet. Some participate for spiritual enlightenment, others for sexual pleasure.
The above exchange was sent to me by a friend following an ongoing discussion in our Leather/Fetish community here in Los Angeles. I have been struggling with some of the issues that this topic is helping to illustrate so let me ramble.....
I have been involved in a number of events that have demos of fetish or BDSM activities. This can range to everything from "demonstrating" flogging, participating in panel discussions, or even didactic presentations on the neurobiology of SM. I have begun to question the process though. I do not have answers but the questions keep coming up.
Some of the Tribal Elders tell how when they were first coming into the community, it was a rather arduous process. People back then were subject to arrest and all kinds of other problems. It was quite common to make new-comers "prove" themselves before they were accepted. It was intentionally an exclusionary process, it had to be. It was a gradual step-wise process of acceptance.. You were likely to be invited to a social event before you were ever invited to play with someone. They checked you out. First to make sure you were not an undercover vice cop, but also to determine if you were someone with whom they wanted to share their hard earned knowledge.
Today, we take one of the most important parts of our life, our kinky sexuality, and share it in public for all kinds of reasons. Education, exposure, and entertainment seem to top the list. I am not suggesting that we should not do this, I am just thinking out loud as it were. There is a very different feeling from playing in public at a BDSM party in which most of the people present are experienced and participating (even if their participation is as a voyeur) and an event in which some of the people are on-lookers. For those who talk about the energy in a scene, I wonder what the impact is of some looki-loo tossing their cookies because they are wierded out by what is going on on-stage.
I think on of the most dangerous aspects of "public play", is that it is easy, no matter your motivation, to find yourself encouraged by the audience to realign your priorities from whatever that motivation might have been to theirs. In my experience, the audience is usually interested in being entertained. It seems pretty common for those audience members to encourage more extreme behavior with out much insight to the risks involved. It seems that the communication coming FROM the audience is usually limited to things like: "Tie him tighter", "Hit him harder", or "Do it to his dick". I think some of our educational demonstrations have as much educational value as gladiatorial combat. I am sure the Roman spectators learned anatomy and all kinds of other important topics while attending the Coliseum but I am not sure that was the original intent or the most effect teaching methodology.
Last night I attended an event, part of which was a suspension scene. The troupe of performers was talented, skillful, and did a great job. I have been to other such scenes that were deeply moving and had an almost spiritual air to them. This was different. (please note...that says different not bad) I was listening to people in the audience. Some guy was narrating to his friends. He made them draw up close to the stage and get so close they were in the way as he told them all about what was going on....oh and got it all wrong by the way. The performers were teased and taunted, not in a cruel way but more teasing. It was NOT like the scene I can recall in which a good friend was suspended for his birthday and had invited his friends to be there to support him. Again, that was different.
My fantasy about the question posited at the top of this post, by the way, is that it was posted by some nice little mommy who was trying to do something special for her son's bar mitzvah.
The above exchange was sent to me by a friend following an ongoing discussion in our Leather/Fetish community here in Los Angeles. I have been struggling with some of the issues that this topic is helping to illustrate so let me ramble.....
I have been involved in a number of events that have demos of fetish or BDSM activities. This can range to everything from "demonstrating" flogging, participating in panel discussions, or even didactic presentations on the neurobiology of SM. I have begun to question the process though. I do not have answers but the questions keep coming up.
Some of the Tribal Elders tell how when they were first coming into the community, it was a rather arduous process. People back then were subject to arrest and all kinds of other problems. It was quite common to make new-comers "prove" themselves before they were accepted. It was intentionally an exclusionary process, it had to be. It was a gradual step-wise process of acceptance.. You were likely to be invited to a social event before you were ever invited to play with someone. They checked you out. First to make sure you were not an undercover vice cop, but also to determine if you were someone with whom they wanted to share their hard earned knowledge.
Today, we take one of the most important parts of our life, our kinky sexuality, and share it in public for all kinds of reasons. Education, exposure, and entertainment seem to top the list. I am not suggesting that we should not do this, I am just thinking out loud as it were. There is a very different feeling from playing in public at a BDSM party in which most of the people present are experienced and participating (even if their participation is as a voyeur) and an event in which some of the people are on-lookers. For those who talk about the energy in a scene, I wonder what the impact is of some looki-loo tossing their cookies because they are wierded out by what is going on on-stage.
I think on of the most dangerous aspects of "public play", is that it is easy, no matter your motivation, to find yourself encouraged by the audience to realign your priorities from whatever that motivation might have been to theirs. In my experience, the audience is usually interested in being entertained. It seems pretty common for those audience members to encourage more extreme behavior with out much insight to the risks involved. It seems that the communication coming FROM the audience is usually limited to things like: "Tie him tighter", "Hit him harder", or "Do it to his dick". I think some of our educational demonstrations have as much educational value as gladiatorial combat. I am sure the Roman spectators learned anatomy and all kinds of other important topics while attending the Coliseum but I am not sure that was the original intent or the most effect teaching methodology.
Last night I attended an event, part of which was a suspension scene. The troupe of performers was talented, skillful, and did a great job. I have been to other such scenes that were deeply moving and had an almost spiritual air to them. This was different. (please note...that says different not bad) I was listening to people in the audience. Some guy was narrating to his friends. He made them draw up close to the stage and get so close they were in the way as he told them all about what was going on....oh and got it all wrong by the way. The performers were teased and taunted, not in a cruel way but more teasing. It was NOT like the scene I can recall in which a good friend was suspended for his birthday and had invited his friends to be there to support him. Again, that was different.
My fantasy about the question posited at the top of this post, by the way, is that it was posted by some nice little mommy who was trying to do something special for her son's bar mitzvah.
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